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A Toast to Living in Completion

So what are Diana and Jim up to as 2014 comes to a close and 2015 peeks its head around the corner?  We’re up to the same thing we’re up to every year during this final calendar week.  Our ritual is completing.

For us completing is a way of living in integrity with our values, agreements and preferences – by completing, we strip away all that is not aligned with the way we want to live and tie up loose ends to bring what remains into alignment. 

Part of living a life in a state of completion is to take the final days of every year to move through all the nooks and crannies of our physical, emotional and spiritual lives and see if anything is incomplete.  

Completion to us looks like:

  • Have we said everything we have to say in every important relationship?  We check to see if we’re clear, e.g. no withholds, no secrets, no unexpressed resentments, appreciations, wants and desires.  Jim took a few minutes to write an email to a friend he hadn’t seen in five years just to express fully his appreciation, his feeling of sadness and a few withholds he didn’t even realize he had until he sat quietly and reflected on the relationship.
  • Have we felt every feeling all the way through to completion?  Have we fully grieved every thing that wants to be let go of (relationships, dreams, beliefs, memories) so that the new can emerge unencumbered by the old?  Have we felt our anger, joy, fear and sexual/creative energy all the way through to completion.
  • Have we mindfully completed all agreements we have made with others or ourselves?  If not, have we renegotiated the agreement or cleared up all broken or unkept agreements.
  • Is our financial household in a state of completion?  Have we paid all our bills, rebalanced our portfolios, given fully to causes that inspire us, updated our insurance policies and refinanced mortgages?
  • Is our physical world in a state of completion?  Have we purged our closets and our files? Have we touched everything in our physical world and asked ourselves, “Does this still fully serve me and give me delight?”  If not, have we moved it out of our world and into someone else’s where it can give pleasure and meet a need.

For us, and many conscious leaders, choosing to live in a state of completion is one of the keys to maximizing energy.  Every incompletion, be it large or small, creates an energy leak.  Conscious leaders develop a heightened sensitivity to any incompletion in their lives.  A bit like Hans Christian Andersen’s Princess and the Pea story conscious leaders can feel a pea-sized incompletion under the many mattresses of life’s complexity.  Any little incompletion keeps them from resting comfortably in the now moment.  The simple solution is to go handle the incompletion and create alignment and integrity.

Commitment #6 of the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership says, “I commit to the masterful practice of integrity, including acknowledging all authentic feelings, expressing the unarguable truth and keeping my agreements. “  This commitment is all about living in a state of completion.

As you let go of 2014 and open to all the possibilities of 2015 are you willing to complete any incompletions in your life.  We invite you to join us in committing to full integrity and maximizing your energy.

About the Author

Jim Dethmer has been devoted to the practice of conscious leadership for 45 years. He has spoken to tens of thousands of people about how to lead and live from consciousness. He has coached Fortune 500 CEOs and their teams supporting them in transforming their lives and their cultures. He has worked with over 200 organizations led by entrepreneurs and professional managers across all industries. In addition to The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, Jim also co-authored High Performing Investment Teams (Wiley, 2006). When Jim is not working with clients, you’ll often find him at his soul’s home in Northern Michigan playing golf with his wife Debbie and delighting in their six children and three grandchildren.

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