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15 Commitments Reminder Questions

Being a conscious leader requires daily practice. Use a reminder app (recommendations in handout) to practice The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership throughout the day. You'll find questions specific to each commitment.

Conscious Meeting Agenda

Six steps for a Conscious Meeting.

Creator, Coach, Challenger Cards

Dual sided cards that describe the above the line transformations for below the line drama roles.

The 15 Commitments

This is a list of some of the many ways we distract ourselves from being with and expressing our authentic feelings and thoughts.

The 4 Ways of Leading

This model shows the states of consciousness leaders operate in: To Me, By Me, Through Me, and As Me.

Triangle Cards

These cards are indispensable for playing with the drama triangle for yourself and with clients. Print out the "bases" to enact your drama patterns.


Commitment #1: Responsibility

100% Responsibility Process

4 steps to taking 100% responsibility

Hiring Questions to Assess for Consciousness

Creating a conscious culture requires conscious hiring. If you want to create a culture with minimal drama, you need to attract and hire people who want to play that same game. Use the questions below to assess for alignment with The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. You'll find questions specific to Commitments 1–9.

How do you react from threat?

When you're dealing with an issue from threat, you unconsciously behave in ways that likely keep the issue repeating. By filling out the worksheet, you'll begin to see more clearly how your behavior of taking more or less responsibility for this issue is keeping the issue going.

Owning Unconscious Commitments

A guide to help you recognize and own unconscious commitments and steps to take to help you decide if you want to change it.

Teaching Your Drama Class

Teaching a class in creating a given issue in your life that causes you suffering may just be the thing to get you out of suffering.

Triangle Distinctions

Learn to distinguish and play with the different roles and faces of victimhood.

Willingness Questions

Are you willing to shift above the line? Most often we want to shift; our heads say yes. But before you do, ask yourself these specific questions if you're fully willing to shift around this issue. There's one for each of the 15 commitments.


Commitment #2: Curiosity

How to Use the Drift List

Follow the steps to discover how drifting from your agreements is keeping you from feeling the discomfort you’ve not been willing to face and feel.

Locating Yourself: Above or Below?

Learn the distinction between shifting between “to me” and “by me” world views.

The Drift List

When we go unconscious, we drift below the line. This is a list of some of the many ways we distract ourselves from being with and expressing our authentic feelings and thoughts.

The Drift/Shift Model

When we go unconscious, we drift below the line. This model shows us how to notice when we drift below the line and how to adjust.

What do you X out?

By "x"ing out qualities or ways of being in yourself, you get in the way of your own full expression and power. Use this worksheet to gain awareness into what you "x" out .


Commitment #3: Feelings

Curbing Your Compulsions

This exercise is designed to help you become more aware of your compulsions that take you away from the mental, emotional, and physical discomfort you are experiencing in the present moment. By allowing the discomfort to be here, rather than numbing it with compulsive behaviors, you become more present and aware of the intelligence the discomfort may be offering you.

Emotional Intelligence

A diagram to help locate emotions in your body and listen to the wisdom of the emotion.

Emotional Range

Explore the full spectrum of the five core feelings: anger, sadness, fear, joy, sexual feelings.

Practicing Emotional Intelligence

Knowing how to express emotions all the way through to completion helps to develop emotional intelligence. Use this guide to identify, locate, allow, or accept the sensation, and then match your experience with your expression.


Commitment #4: Candor

CLG Check-Ins

A step by step guide to doing a CLG check-in.

Conscious Listening

Listening above the line happens when the listener is aware of what's occurring in the moment for themselves and with the person they're listening to, without any alternative motives. This kind of listening supports genuine transformation and honors the intelligence of head, heart, and gut.

Eat Your Projections

Use this handout to recognize that our critical judgements about others are pointers to the parts of ourselves that we either don’t acknowledge or fully accept.

Fact Vs. Story

Guide yourself to differentiate facts from story to get to the heart of an issue and discover how the opposite of your story may be as true.

Giving Feedback

To support your learning and growth through the art of giving and receiving feeback.

Speaking Unarguably

Learn to reveal what is true by revealing what is unarguable through physical sensations, emotions, or thoughts.

The Art of Feedback

Your feedback is a gift; it gives others an opportunity to learn how they may be impacting you and others. How you receive feedback is as important as how you deliver it. No matter whom it comes from or how it is delivered, it presents a unique opportunity to learn and grow.


Commitment #5: Gossip

The Clearing Model

A tool to separate fact from story and to learn to speak directly to one another.


Commitment #6: Integrity

Defining Decision Rights

Eliminate drama, and wasted time and energy, by defining clear decision rights. No decision right is fundamentally better than another. Conscious leaders get present and consider which decision right will most serve the situation, circumstance, and team.

Getting Aligned with Wellbeing

Taking responsibility for your wellbeing is foundational to conscious leadership. Use this worksheet to do a self-care inventory and to identify new habits or practices you can integrate to boost your wellbeing.

Impeccable Agreements

This handout walks you through the step by step process of making and renegotiating agreements, as well as cleaning up broken agreements. Use this as a guide for all agreements you make in your life: at work, at home, and everywhere in between. Use it with your team to ensure that you're making impeccable agreements from above the line.

Integrity Inventory

Use this list to help scan through your life and discover where you may be out of integrity.

Practicing a No Diet

If you're overcommitted because you have trouble saying "No," use this practice to shift your pattern.

Reducing Weaponization

Drama significantly reduces when people are co-committed and have very clear agreements. Once you define your commitments and agreements use this guide to support you in staying in integrity while not weaponizing the practices you agree to.

The Four Pillars of Integrity

Integrity (n.): The quality or state of wholeness, congruence, alignment. The four pillars: Emotional Intelligence, Impeccable Agreements, Healthy Responsibility, and Conscious Communication.

Whole Body Yes

A handout to support you to learning to listen to the wisdom your mind, body, will, and emotions.


Commitment #7: Appreciation

30 Days of Corporate Appreciation

A guide to help you share an appreciation with someone you work with each day for the next 30 days.

30 Days of Partner Appreciations

A guide to help you share an appreciation with your partner or family member for the next 30 days.


Commitment #8: Genius

Daily Energy Audit

Use this tool to discover how much of your day you spend in your zone of genius.

Genius Campaign

Send this to people who know you well to begin to explore your zone of genius.

The Best Stuff

In this exercise you are asked to identify and then describe eight specific accomplishments or experiences across your entire life.


Commitment #9: Play and Rest

Persona Interview

Pick a name for the persona you want to interview and let the persona answer the questions.

Workaholism Quiz

A quiz that is designed to begin a conversation with yourself and others about your relationship with work


Commitment #10: Opposite of My Story

Instructions for Doing "The Work" (Byron Katie)

What if the opposite of your story is at least as true? Use these simple steps to investigate your beliefs and free your mind.


Commitment #11: Approval

Identifying the Source of Threat

A worksheet to identify from where you are sourcing security, approval and control.

Releasing Security, Control, and Approval

A meditation practice to support you in embodying commitment 11.

What's in Your Control?

Learning to differentiate what's under your control and what isn't is a key to happiness and effectiveness. Use our process to bring more of both.


Commitment #12: Enough

Consciousness and Money

Explore your relationship with sufficiency of money.

Scarcity Inventory

Exploring the areas in your life where you believe you do not have enough.


Commitment #13: Allies


Go through these steps to understand how someone or a situation that is troubling you is really an ally.


Commitment #14: Win for All

Win For All

A process to get you to a genuine win-for-all solution to any issue you're facing.


Commitment #15: Being the Resolution

Being the Resolution

An exercise to address what is "missing" in the world

The Change Formula

This is a formula originally created by Richard Beckhard and David Gleicher, refined by Kathie Dannemiller. Learn about how vision, dissatisfaction and resistance play into your relationship with change.


Purpose and Impact

Defining Purpose

Go through this process to gain a deeper understanding of your purpose. You'll end up with a detailed purpose statement.



3 As of Conscious Compassion

Conscious compassion includes awareness, acceptance, and action. This worksheet is designed to ensure that your compassion is coming from trust versus threat.

Book Discussion Guide for The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership

Use this guide to assist your group in a meaningful discussion and deeper understanding of how The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership can help you live and lead above the line.

Ending Drama in the Workplace

Five commitments to align with with concrete steps you can take to do your part to end drama in the workplace.

Mastering the Commitments

Use this handout to tune in and see how much are you fully embodying each commitment.

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