When Home Feels Unsteady, Here’s How to Find Your Ground

Month after month, we see images of people around the world displaced from their homes—by natural disasters, by war. Some of us may feel deep compassion, an ache in our hearts as we observe the suffering. Others may notice something quieter—a heaviness, a subtle unease, or even a numbness, unsure how much more we can hold.

For some, this unease may be personal—memories of past losses, fears of future uncertainty. For others, it may be something more diffuse, a kind of background instability that doesn’t belong to any one event but to the times we’re living in. The world can radiate a frequency of instability and uncertainty that unconsciously stores itself in the individual nervous system. Even if we aren’t directly impacted, we may still carry a felt sense of unpredictability in our bodies, responding to a world in flux.

I’ve been feeling it even within my own business. It might not be a natural disaster or war, but the vulnerability of uneasiness can be just as dominant.

The past few months have brought meaningful changes at CLG—an organization that, in many ways, feels like home to me. And with each shift, I notice familiar waves: moments of fear, sorrow, the resurfacing of old wounds. These emotions tend to move through me quickly, but when life shakes my foundation, I feel unsteady. 

As I was contemplating and experiencing all of this instability—the personal and the global—I remembered a piece of art that hangs on a friend’s wall. I’ve noticed it on countless Zoom calls over the years. It’s a calligraphy Thich Nhat Hanh that reads:

Be Your True Home

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The calligraphy is beautiful, and the message resonates. But what does it really mean to Be Your True Home?

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What Does It Mean to Be Your True Home?

Home is where we feel safe, secure, and a sense of belonging. But our true home isn’t something external—it can’t be destroyed or shaken. Unlike the temporary homes we turn to for comfort, our true home is unshakable.

This doesn’t mean external homes—physical spaces, relationships, or roles—aren’t important. They matter. They shape our experiences and provide connection. But they aren’t permanent. Recognizing this is the first step to discovering what is.

Notice the wording: BE Your True Home. This home isn’t something we build or maintain—it’s something we are. It’s not something we have to search for or sustain. It already exists. I don’t have to construct it. I don’t have to earn it. My true home is already here.

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Finding Your True Home

So where is this true home, where I am always safe, secure and belong? 

One answer lies in the body. Your body isn’t your permanent home—it, too, will age and eventually return to the earth. But it houses your true home. You can come into your true home by coming down and into your body and finding there the space and presence that is HOME. 

This can sound strange or esoteric, but it’s actually incredibly practical and simple. Judith Blackstone, the creator of the Realization Process, describes it beautifully. She teaches that the body houses “fundamental consciousness,” which is her word for awake awareness, Presence, True Self, or …….. HOME. 

In her most basic meditation, Fundamental Attunement, she guides you to truly “inhabit the body.” We all have bodies, but most of us don’t truly inhabit them. We live a long way away from our bodies. And in doing so, we can never Be Our True Home. I recommend taking 30 minutes and letting her guide you into your body and to your HOME: 

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Stability Amid Instability

The more you practice inhabiting your body and Being Your True Home, the more stable you’ll feel—even in life’s most uncertain moments. This stability doesn’t rely on external circumstances. It arises from within, where your true home has always been waiting. 

CLG has always been more than just an organization to me—it’s felt like home. It’s a place where I’ve found a sense of belonging, where I’ve had the privilege of building something meaningful alongside people I deeply love and respect. So when shifts began to happen, when familiar structures and routines started to change, it felt like the foundation I had trusted beneath me was suddenly shaken. It wasn’t a natural disaster or a global war, but it felt just as destabilizing in its own way.

I was reminded, as I sat with these feelings, how easy it is to let instability—whether personal or global—create an internal storm. The discomfort I was feeling wasn’t about CLG, or the changes, or the state of the world at all. It was about the way I had temporarily lost touch with the peace that’s always within me. I had placed my stability in the hands of external factors—in the routines, the roles, the people, and the familiar ways of being within CLG. But when those things shifted, I realized that I had moved away from the place within myself that was always steady, always grounded, always home.

It’s been uncomfortable, messy even, to face that vulnerability and the fear of not knowing what comes next. The temptation to control and resist is strong, but that’s when I remember that home isn’t something I need to create or maintain outside of myself. It’s a place I already am.

It’s about returning to that inner center, coming back to my own truth, no matter how messy or uncertain things feel.

This journey has reminded me that true stability comes from within. It’s a peace that doesn’t require external conditions to align perfectly. In this process, I’ve found that embracing the messiness, sitting with the discomfort, and choosing presence in the midst of the storm is the path back to my true home. And in this return, I’ve discovered that even when the foundation shakes, my peace is still here, rooted deep within me.

Practically what this looks like is me sitting still for a few minutes each morning. I breathe and come into my body. Then I move to my feet. Blackstone’s words are “inhabit my feet.” This isn’t just being aware of my feet like you might be aware of the lamp across the room, this is actually inhabiting or living in my feet. Then as I inhabit my feet I “attune to the quality of SELF in my feet.” This attunement is feeling deeply into the sense of SELF or PRESENCE that is my True Home. As I do this (over and over), I feel a very profound and subtle sense of being safe, secure, stable, alive, and even whole. I spend the next few minutes inhabiting other parts of my body and feeling the sense of SELF as it rests in every part of my body and in the whole. Again, the body is both the door into the room and the room itself where HOME is. 

The more you practice inhabiting your body and Being Your True Home, the more stable you’ll feel—even in life’s most uncertain moments. This stability doesn’t rely on external circumstances. It arises from within, where your true home and mine have always been waiting. 

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Further Resources

• Commitment #11 Meditation - Sourcing Approval, Control & Security - Use this meditation to redirect where you source your sense of approval, control, and security from.‍
• Meditation: Locating Home Within - A somatic visualization to source the feeling of home from within no matter where you find yourself. This is an especially great practice to have in your back pocket for stressful times.